This paper examines how adult educators in after-school programs can mobilize their inner-resources and social-emotional aptitude to achieve good relationships with their coworkers and with the children in their care. The Bringing Yourself to Work Project, a professional development program for after-school educators at Wellesley College provides an empirical foundation for the relevance of emotional intelligence and relational psychology at work. The authors discuss issues of self-awareness, cultural boundaries, and the potential for adults to learn relational skills.